Stand up in Life

Stand up in life for what you believe in.

This week I reached out and spoke with the leaders of a couple of co-ed singles groups at my church and had some really interesting conversations with them. All of them are a now women’s only singles’ groups. When I asked why they said the same thing, they couldn’t get men to step up. That’s really sad. Are there really no men strong in their faith who are available and willing to ‘step up?’. Apparently not.

I made the decision this week to start dating and was pretty surprised to see my match queue literally overflowing. Its very clear in my profile that having a strong spiritual connection and faith in God and family is a non-negotiable. To me that is the foundation of what I want in someone.

Why don’t men have the courage to put themselves out there and step up in life and take a stand in their faith? I know they are there, but almost none are willing to put in the work. Again, its so disappointing to see all of these women looking so hard for that one good man who has those qualities. It should never be that like that.

If you are a man out there – Get your sh*t together. Be a real man. Stop f*cking over these women, playing games, being selfish & abusive, doing drugs, not following through, having no motivation in life, no desire to better yourself.

Women do not want a man who needs someone to be his mother. They want someone who can lead a family – Lead them to greater things, spiritually, financially, emotionally, etc.

Challenge yourself as a man to become those greater things.

Be that source of unbending strength & safety. Be the rock & stability for those in your life. Live to serve others, not yourself. Be accountable for your actions. Its your responsibility as a man, own it. Have a mission & PURPOSE in life – and be driven to that mission. Make it the reason you get up in the morning.

Be strong, decisive & purposeful in your actions. Be honest, respectful, authentic. Be emotionally available. Set healthy boundaries and hold other people accountable to them. Lead with love. Do what is right in your own life first & EVERYONE will benefit.